I’m being blamed for the breakdown of a marriage – but it’s got nothing to do with me.
The husband of a woman I used to work with has tracked me down. He wants my head on a spike. He’s angry and full of resentment.
He says they are getting divorced. She’s announced she no longer loves him because she is in love with me! This is crazy. I vaguely remember her. We collaborated on a big project back in 2018.
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At the end of it our old boss took a gang of us out for a slap-up meal – and she and I ended up in a hotel room. We had drunken sex until dawn. I didn’t even know she was married.
In the morning we went our separate ways. I was head hunted a short time later and moved to New York. Now I’m back in my home town and feeling the heat. The husband storms that his wife is still infatuated with me.
He says I have to do something – I must tell her I’m not interested and insist she returns home to him. But what has any of this got to do with me?
A lot has happened since I was last here and I don’t think I’d even recognise her if I passed her in the street. I stopped drinking during Covid and everything before that is a bit of blur.
But, he reckons this woman has never got over me and feels she can’t continue being married to him because of it. I feel as though I’m being stalked. He keeps stopping me in the street and finding me in pubs.
JANE SAYS: You need to get tough. You have to explain to the husband that these marital woes are nothing to do with you.
You aren’t prepared to speak to your ex-colleague, and don’t wish to have any contact with either of them.
Warn him that you now believe you’re being harassed and stalked – and aren’t willing to put up with either. Make it clear you will go to a solicitor or even the police if he or she troubles you again.
Unfortunately, you find yourself in the middle of some serious marital crossfire. A desperate husband wants you to speak to his adamant wife about returning to the family home. Meanwhile, the wife is saying you are the only man for her, despite you not seeing each other for years.
My gut feeling is that your ex-colleague is simply using you as an excuse to get out of an unhappy marriage. She’s plucked your name out of the air. I just don’t believe she’s been secretly in love with you.
There’s something weird going on and I doubt you’re hearing the full story. Stand firm, share this trauma with friends and family and don’t allow anyone to get to you.
